My dad is an ass
in. It was my first week working in New York City. I had a background in sales but could not hold down a job if my life depended on it which thinking about it my life actually did depend on it.
Their three children gave similar s of their father, perhaps not as strong as yours. This requires weird bravery or narcissism? Address: Follow. For the same reasons as above, he often embodied selfishness, self interest, and lazy thinking. Cathy Like Like. One day he yelled at me to sing the harmony instead.
He taught me the value of intellectual debate and fighting for my ideas and values.
Feel free to delete this thread. J Like Like. He even sometimes seemed to believe it. Thanks to Shecky for the Cleese bit. He was also a pussycat compared to my dad. My sympathies, I guess. Address:. He consistently argued that men are smarter than women, even as my mom consistently helped him write his research papers, he seemed to truly believe some eugenic beliefs, and he was very into evolutionary biological explanations for why he and men like him should be entitled to unquestioned power.
His favorite activity was reading, and reading out loud to whomever happened to be walking through the room. Love it! But, like your dad, he had some good points too, as I think almost everyone does. Along those lines, my father taught me to love ideas for their own sake. It was to the comment that you deleted.
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Love your work. Since he never followed inconvenient constraints of etiquette or behavior, my father role modeled for me that most norms or even laws can be interpreted as rules of thumb to be considered and held up to inspection rather than thoughtlessly followed. But because he was that bad, after a certain point in my life, I chose not to have anything to do with him. Your dad comes out from your weird eulogy as a smart independently thinking man, probably not intellectually diminished by age, a kind of man enjoying life to the very end if he was not in painso it should be tough and feels unfair.
Have you been on nakedcapitalism. I thought it was just something I was supposed to know how to do when I was 8. In terms of parenting my children, my father taught me the value of consistent kindness by displaying the wreckage of sporadic cruelty. Cheers, P Like Like.
Just as his brutality was never subtle, his generosity was never fake. Hard of course to be sure are you a genuine asshole or you are engaged in a weird form of virtue aling, e. Glad to see you are getting picked up by Bloomberg. Recent Posts Who starts blogging in ? Like this: Like Loading : Uncategorized. Thank you for this lesson on seeing the upside of things. So congrats for the lesson learned from your dad. Math contests kind of suck Why is math research important?
My dad was as bad as yours, but in a different way. He turned me into an intellectual critic, which has made me a ton of money over the years. So there is still a room for you to learn from your dad, not to hold his opinions but to be less aligned with the currently prevailing views. Like Liked by 1 person. I want to thank my dad for helping me understand our current president at a deep level. My father was incredibly wrong about a bunch of things, and wrong headed to top it off. And I admire your courage to say this aloud in a room of?
Anyone realize their father was an asshole later on in life?
My dad claimed, out loud and often, to be the smartest person in the world. You can read his official obituary here.
Though, the apple seems to have strayed a long way. Maybe 10 i your list explains it. So I did it.
The exact moment i realized my father was an asshole.
I thank him for teaching me to welcome people into my home with openness and love. My dad taught me never to be intimidated by anyone. Thank you. But to his credit, he was always willing to argue these points. Mark Muldoon. He was all those things. Like Like. My father never displayed nor expected conformity.
Comments This is a tough post. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by. And the truth is he was really smart, but he was also weirdly emphatic about exaggerating such things to the point of incredibility. That sure does explain a couple of things. I would say that to anyone who talked like that to someone regarding their grief process.
Shecky R. Sarah Cook. OMG you totally just negged Cathy. I also enjoy your blog overall. Why did you? Dear Mathbabe, My dad was also an alcoholic, though nowhere near so accomplished as yours. My father taught me to say what I mean and mean what I say.
Ditto 1, 4 6, 8, 9…Thanks!! When I was a little kid, my dad expected me to sing folk songs with him.
My dad was also an alcoholic, though nowhere near so accomplished as yours. It was her way of grieving. Great post Kathy. At those moments, it made it easy for me to see and pick apart the errors of his logic. This is utterly brilliant. May he rest in peace. Sorry for your loss. So thanks dad. Wait, what?